An Emotional Tank is like a car’s gas tank. When it’s empty, the team goes nowhere, but when it’s full, the team can go anywhere. People with empty tanks become negative and give up more easily. But with full tanks, we stay optimistic and can handle difficult situations.
Here are some ways you can keep your teammate’s emotional tanks full:
- Tell teammates when you see them do something well, or when you see them giving maximum effort, even if the play does not completely go your way.
- Tell teammates when you see them improving. That will help them continue trying hard to improve even more.
- Listen to teammates when they have ideas to share.
People perform best and have full tanks when they get about five pieces of truthful, specific praise for each time that they receive a piece of specific, constructive criticism...not necessarily all in a row, but over time. Truthful and specific praise means not just saying “Way to go!” but something like “Great hustle! You accelerated at just the right time.”
As a teammate it’s important that you give lots of praise to keep your teammates tanks full so that when they do get constructive criticism from a teammate or coach, they’ll still know you believe in them as a player and as a person.
Try to avoid draining each other’s’ tanks. If your teammates make mistakes, they know it, and they feel badly. If you criticize them for mistakes, you make them feel worse, and they’re more likely to make more mistakes.
You’ll have a great season if you keep your teammates Emotional Tanks full.
This blog provided by the Positive Coaching Alliance.